Reinforce Positive Attitude in Toddlers & Young Children

Happy Friday groovy mommies 😉

Wish you were in lovely day *hugs*.

Today, I’d love to share something regarding to “How to Reinforce Positive Attitude in Toddlers & Young Children“ *alhamdulillah*, hope you’ll try these tips with your lil precious in your free time.

There are many different ways to reinforce positive behavior in a child.

You can easily nip it in the bud early with a few simple strategies to teach your child there are other appropriate, effective forms of communicating with you *Insya-Allah*.

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort ~Herm Albright

Charming prince 😀

Truly, rewards are from inside 😉 So, what you should do?

  • First, try limiting the situations that trigger it.
  • Please avoid extra errands when the kids are hungry.
  • Don’t let them get involved in a frustrating game or project prior to bedtime.
  • Pay attention when your child is talking, as sometimes whining is a reaction when a child feels you aren’t giving them your full attention.
  • Praise them for not whining and talking in a normal and understandable voice that allows you to fully understand what they are saying to you.
  • When the whining begins, don’t overreact. Keep your response simple, calm and neutral. Ask your child to repeat the request in a normal tone.


Positive reinforcers are used to increase behaviors that you want your child to perform.

Any type of reward or incentive you give your child that results in increasing the behavior you want your child to perform is a positive reinforcer.

As a rule, reinforcers are only positive when they increase a desired behavior. Samples of  reinforcers include:

  • Choice of favorite activities. E.g: Reading, making crafts, playing sports, or other preferred activity with father/mother (one-on-one-moment).
  • Time or lunch/dinner with father/mother (one-on-one-moment).
  • Add-on recess or play time.
  • Compliments and recognition.
  • Hugs, pats on the back, smiles, hand-shakes, and high-fives.
  • Posting work in a place of honor (family board).

Lovely princess >_<

Physical rewards that may increase positive behaviors.

Tangible rewards are objects that can be touched and can be used as positive reinforcers.

These are examples of tangibles that help increase the behaviors you want your child to perform:

  • New books!
  • Healthy snacks.
  • Special stickers such as scratch and sniff, flashy, cute, sporty, or other unique stickers.
  • Cool stationary.
  • Tickets to be saved to trade in for larger rewards.
  • Chocolate, cookies or candy (if parents approve and in small amounts).
  • Age-appropriate toys chosen from a reward box.


How to Reinforce Positive Attitude in Toddlers & Young Children:

Positive reinforcement is a simple, reality-based technique that can help turn your child’s behavior very quickly.

Please reinforceswhat the child is doing right” rather than “concentrating on what the child is doing wrong“.

Why? Because it increases the likelihood that the behavior will be repeated.
It supports your child’s positive deeds and qualities through enthusiasm, descriptive encouragement, and natural, logical rewards.
Your child also begins to recognize the value of his own positive qualities and actions.
Keep in mind: positive reinforcement works best when it isn’t a once-in-a-while thing; the more it happens, the more effective it is. That means daily.

Little princess 😉

  • Step 1: Pay attention to every opportunity to praise your toddler.
    This seems like an obvious thing to do, but you would be surprised how many things we do not notice until we pay close attention.
    Grab hold of every chance you get tell your toddlers they did a great job!
  • Step 2: Remember that the world is new to a toddler.
    Everything that we do and take for granted can be a challenge to a toddler. As such, no task is to small for heaping on praise and encouragement.
  • Step 3: Find the positive parts of anything your toddler does.
    No task is done wrong completely by our toddlers.
    Find what was done well, and praise that part of it to help encourage them to try again.
  • Step 4: Involve yourself in every part of your toddler’s school.
    This is a gold mine of opportunity for praise and positive reinforcement of good behavior.
    Sit down every evening with your toddler and talk about what went well at school that day.
    If your toddlers are not in school yet, start them early at home.
    Teach them basic skills such as sitting, public safety and raising their hands. This will pay off in the future.
  • Step 5: Double your positives over your corrections.
    This means that for every correction you make, you should give two compliments.
    Toddlers need that encouragement, and they do not respond well to overly-critical talk.
    Give them a leg-up on the toddler competition. They will live longer and more well-adjusted lives for it.



  • Remember that the tone of your voice speaks volumes.
  • Be careful to speak in an energetic, proud tone.
  • Do not correct or criticize your toddler often, as it will lead to poor self-esteem.

Little baby princess ^-^

  • Focus on positive behavior . Don’t focus on the negative, and don’t link it to a judgment on the child’s personality.
  • It seems easier to notice what’s annoying or troubling than it is to notice how wonderful your child really is. Some parents are so afraid of raising a stuck-up little monster that they bend over backwards to never give a compliment, or describe positive behavior. Not a good idea.
  • Keep it very specific. The more specific you get, the more your child will learn to figure out for himself/herself when he/she is doing a good job.
  • Effort counts. You can give descriptive encouragement for effort even if the results don’t turn out so well. E.g: “You worked very hard on your homework, boy. I’m sure next time you will get the right answer”.
  • Focus on improvement. Say it often!

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony ~ Mahatma Gandhi


I hope those tips could help you moms 😀

May all the best to you. Have a great day!

About MamaFiza

Born in 1984. Family 1st; living in boulevard of peace, loving my treasured family, fully breastfeeding my precious 4 kids (tandem nursing) *30 months duration for each of 'em*, homeschool advocate, book writer, Work-at-Home-Mom (WAHM), certified Lactation Counselor (LC), official ZIN, yoga + pilates enthusiast, no pacifier & no maid rules! [Praise to God]

08. May 2009 by MamaFiza
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