Quality time with the children

[UmmiIna]

Salam buat semu**

Sy ingin tahu bgm nk dptkan Q time with the kids setiap hari? FYI, I'm a mother of 4, just moved to Perak a year ago(the kids just moved in since Jan08) while husband still in KL. I have to manage the kids(including a 5 month old exclusively breastfed baby) on my own with the assistance of bibik, but I'm still doing the cooking part everyday.

My first 2 kids dah sekolah,Std 4 & Std 2 meanwhile the 3rd one in the kindy.Setiap hari, sy sampai ke rumah around 7.00pm(after fetching my boy from school). Lps salin pakaian etc., sy akan pam susu dulu and then terus mula memasak. Dah selesai masak, sy akan mandi+solat+makan++, around 8.30pm sy akan masuk ke bilik bersama baby utk tidokan dia & this part kdg2 ambil masa sampai 1 jam untuk pastikan dia betul2 in a deep sleep. Keluar je dari bilik, most of the times the other 3 siblings dah nyenyak tido dlm bilik diorg. Sy rasa sedih sgt sbb x sempat nk spend time dgn diorg, tgk keje sekolah dll. Sambil tengok diorg tido, airmata meleleh je sbb rs mcm I'm not a good mother :(.

[mamafiza]

Dearie Miss UmmiIna,

Uh oh sgt sayu bila membaca ttg hari2 yg perlu dilalui oleh Miss UmmiIna & anak2. *hugs*

Tak mengapa..jgn gundah gulan** Insya-Allah rakan2 disini akan cuba beri cadangan buat Miss UmmiIna.

Firstly, saya ras** Miss UmmiIna jgnlah rasa serba salah krn yg penting ialah Quality Time berbanding Quantity Time.

Jadi, boleh tak digunakan masa BF baby tu utk ajak your kiddies ramai2 duduk atas katil, hugging & buat kerja rumah bersama..let's say mcm bacakan buku cerita / buat story telling time utk mereka sambil menyusukan bayi?

Krn saya juga gunakan method ini krn sometimes big bro & sis pun nak join lil Yuna time BF. Lepas tu, beri peluang pula mereka (one by one) utk bercerita: Free Style story time. Apa shjlah yg mereka nak cerita...kita beri pendapat jika mrk minta / tanya. Praise n hugs. Beri pujian atas cerita & kerjasama mrk.

Boleh juga minta tlg mereka utk masak bersama Miss UmmiIna (sy buat yg ini), jadi mereka boleh bercerita dgn kita.

Kemudian, bila waktu cuti luangkan masa bersama utk buat apa shj, buat kerja rumah pun boleh sambil bercerita. Ataupun time riadah, ambil peluang utk really deep kiss n hugs..pasti your kiddies sgt gembira & rasa dihargai.

Insya-Allah mrk takkan rasa terasing atau rasa dipinggirkan.

Gambatte ne momma! May Allah swt blessed your precious family. Amin~

[nelcyndana]

ummiin**

u should give urself a pat on the shoulder for being such a fantastic mother. standing ovation from me for all the efforts you made for ur children (bfeed + cooking) & the sacrifices.

agree wth mamafiza (great ideas), due to the limited times, try to do everything wth ur children. semoga ur children & u will have a greater & happier time together after this. amin.

[anamiraa]

umiin**
exactly my challenges satu ketika dulu. anak2 saya 7, 5, 5, 3. dulu saya buat all the masak. tapi memang hancus sebab banyak sangat masa terbuang kat situ. last2 masak2 saya suruh maid buat. tawakal je la tak dapat nak nulong. once in awhile saya masak.

saya balik rumah dalam 6-6.30 gitu. biasanya budak2 dah makan time saya balik. lepas makan saya ngan anak2 semua naik atas masuk bilik. bila maghrib semua pakat ikut saya sembahyang. lepas tu kalau depa nak makan saya suapkan jugak. lepas makan abang yang standard 1 dah bersiap sedia untuk buat homework. adik2 pun saya bagi suruh buat worksheet pre-school. kaler2 ke, doodling2 ke. doesn't matter. yang penting they have to be inside the 'picture'. kat bilik saya ada macam japanese coffee table so that abang boleh buat homework kat dalam bilik sekali dengan adik2 dia. tapi at times memang kecohlah dibuatnya. mula2 saya memang upset sebab takut abang terganggu nak buat kerja rumah dia. tapi lama2 all of us came to adapt this kind of learning process. afterall, it's about survival. we need to learn how to survive in whatever situation we were thrown into in order to succeed. and trust me. the success is sweeter when the challenge is greater.

insyaallah, things will be better for you. saya doakan sekali.

[coachsha]

Ummiin**

You are one tough mama! Triple salute to u.

One more, time spent in the car, on the road juga boleh diimpak maksimakan!

Way to go and one more salute to u.

[UmmiIna]

nelcy...

thanks..insyaallah...i'm trying to utilize whatever seconds that i have...be strong...

[UmmiIna]

mamafiza..now i dah try sikit2 to pull them in when i'm cooking..esp dlm bab tolong petik sayur jela...

u r right anaamira...cooking mmg consume time..tp my maid ni bab masak mmg lemau sket, dia pon ngaku..nk suruh buat telur dadar pon x lulus2 lagi...so end up, i gak la yg masak..n u r right again..this is about survival...if we moms retreat, apa lagi the kids kan...

coachsha...waa..bestnya ur words...mmg time spent dlm kereta htr/amik diorg to/fro skool pon i try to 'impakmaksimakan' hehe...it works you know...i love to see them going out from the car to skool with smiles on their faces...even kdg2 ada jugak i bg lecture dlm kereta due to their misbehavior...but i'll make sure..b4 they leave the car...they have learned their lessons, apologized n hugged me back...the hugging part will bring back their smiles

[coachsha]

OH..UmmiIna..

me so terharu..... go mama go go!!

[nelcyndana]

gud idea coachsha & UmmiIna about spending time in the car. mmg ada buat tp belum diimpak maksimakan. ada ms buat, time mood xde, x buat. lps ni akan consistent. tp bila travel jauh x mampu lah... sy ni jns mabuk naik keta mahupun apa2 benda yg bergerak.

that's why coachsh** kalu sy keep on travelling mcm awak, definitely muka hijau sepjg ms... camner yer nk kurgkan mabuk naik kenderaan bergerak.....

[yus]

saya juga mggunakan method yg sama. setiap hari semasa hantar dan ambil kakak dari nursery, saya akan bercerit** bergurau senda n buat apa saja (selagi ia tidak mengganggu pemanduan saya)..sbbnya bila dah smp rumah, nak kena layan adik pula...