How to get your Baby on a Timetable

Ever wonder on how you could get your bundle of joy on a ritualistic schedule you can work around day and night?

What is your goal? Much needed sleep, a secure and happy child.

Remember: to grow a healthy baby involve a healthy mom!

Sleeping Beauty

*Alhamdulillah* I have 3 children, so I have had plenty of practice at this

Below are some tips that I had discovered in my journey of nurturing my kiddies plus knowledge from the miracle of Internet:

Things You’ll Need:

dedication
1 bundle of joy or multiple
diapers
lotion
bottle
breast
washcloth and/or warm bath
lots of love
lots of patience

Step 1: Bedtime Diagnosis
The first thing you’ll need to know about babies is once they are born they really seem confused.
To get them on a schedule is an easy task but it does take dedication from you the parents.
Sometimes if you really try to write everything down, feeding times, fussy times, bowel movements, the whole 9 yards, it still doesn’t make any sense.
The main thing to focus on is bedtime in the beginning for your baby.
Instead of writing all of this down, jot down what you think might be his/her bedtime. What time does your baby go to sleep, in the evening, and sleep for several hours?
Let’s say he/she falls asleep at 6:30pm and sleeps until 8pm. Then use 6:30pm as the bedtime….this is the secret!!!

Step 2: Work It
So if its 6:30pm each evening and you see this pattern, then use this time to your advantage.
As I said, you have to be dedicated and clear your personal time to allow for things to fall into place.
What you do next is, ok, you pick 6:30pm each evening, now what you do is at about 6:00pm you start getting him/her ready for bed.
You either do a warm bath or wash the baby off with a warm wash cloth, hands and face, etc.
Change the baby’s diaper and I usually use a small amount of powder for dryness.
Then you can do baby lotion *my kiddies love massage routine* and last, pajamas.
This in total should not take you more than 30 minutes. *yay*

Step 3: Breastfeed Your Baby
Lastly, you can feed the baby his/her bottle of breast milk or breastfeed, whichever you are doing.
Finally you can put the baby down for its nap.
How does this get the baby on a schedule you ask? Easy!
It works because by being persistent and establishing a bedtime you have just started creating security in the life of your new child.
The baby now knows, “when I get my bath, and jammies and my tummy full, I go to bed“. The baby learns what to expect and when to expect it, this provides security for him/her.
You will see the baby getting very unhappy if things go off schedule for a day or so, which is normal for them.
Next, this will lead to the baby establishing a wakeup time and at that point you can give him/her the first feeding of the day or breakfast(cereal/fruit).

Finally, you will further see some additional patterns as the baby starts to get a little older that will indicate, ok, at this time he/she is hungry and this could be a good time to establish the lunchtime.

Same goes for the napping, you will see two naps usually for babies, one in the morning after breakfast and one in the late afternoon following lunchtime.

Alert:
* The main objective here is consistently focus on bedtime and getting ready at the same time every evening. This starts the process, and soon you will be able to predict your baby’s every need, grunt, cry, or wimper. So getting them on a schedule is one piece at a time and eventually it falls into place.

Best of luck mommies Never give up! *daaa*

December 7, 2007 | Filed Under Mama's Talk | Leave a Comment

Ways of Raising Happy Baby

As for me, teaching my own child to be happy and appreciate it, is one of the greatest gifts to me as a parent. *Alhamdulillah*

Please do memorize that your baby and toddler won’t find happiness through movies, television or other aspects of pop culture.

Don’t you ever replace happiness with material. *please*

Koko Crunch's Lover
Koko Crunch’s Buddies

Happiness comes from within and it’s about learning to love the person that you were created to be.

Once your child learns this lesson, he’ll carry it with him for the rest of his life. *Insya-Allah*

Let play a part in it:

Step 1: Aim for Blissfulness
Set goals for your child. These goals should be challenging and should require effort on your child’s behalf. But they should be goals that your child can achieve. Once your child successfully meets this goal, he’ll have a better self confidence and a better understanding of true happiness.

Step 2: Be Optimistic
Point out the positive. This is a sure way to build your child’s confident and help her be happy. And even more important than the pat on the back is why you’re praising your child. That’s encouragement for her to do it again.

Step 3: Praise Good Words
Choose praise words that set high standards, but not too high. Words like “perfect” and “super” are OK, but they can often set standards that are unobtainable. Instead phrases like “hard worker” and “smart” set expectations that are well within your child’s reach.

Step 4: Remedy
Allow your child to correct mistakes. The true test is how to handle it. Equip your child with the right attitude, and he’ll be a better person for it. *Insya-Allah, Amin~* He’ll feel happy with the outcome when he’s corrected the situation himself.

Step 5: Role Model
Find positive role models for your child. As parents, you should definitely be an example to your child. But she should also be able to look outside the home and find people who support her. And some kids, especially teenagers, feel more comfortable talking to someone other than a parent. If you already have a support network in place, you can feel confident your teen is getting the right information and she’s growing into the person you know she can be.

Step 6: Stop Tittle-Tattle
Discuss behavioral difficulties about your child when he’s not around. Hearing a conversation about himself can tear down his self esteem and will lead to unhappiness.

Please do recall:

“You have your husband/wife, your family, your job, your friends, your lover, and tons of entertainment to think about and love, but your baby only have YOU.

So what are you waiting for? Start passing your love to your sweet baby, today *cheers*

December 6, 2007 | Filed Under Mama's Talk | 2 Comments

How to Cherish a Good Manners Baby

Have been tackled this situation before? Believe me, Rome wasn’t built in a day. *yes*

Same goes to well behavior. Good manners are noticed instantly.

But how do you pass this on to your baby and toddler?

KiruaMi and ReiHi plus YunaFi
lil ReiHi, lil YunaFi, lil KiruaMi

Below are some of tips on how to raise a good mannered child, that I’d learned from our homeschool family practiced *alhamdulillah* and via reading on the Internet and books:

Things You’ll Need:

Patience

Repetition

Step 1: Mom’s Prayer
Make one’s devotion every single day for your baby. Pray for smooth sailing journey for the rest of their life. Have a great faith.

Step 2: Role Model
Behave as you would like your baby to behave. Make sure you’re behaving in a way you would like your child to emulate. Thank your child for passing items to you or putting things away. Make sure you include the word “please” in any request.

Step 3: Calmness
Wait until proper manners are used before providing the child with what they want. If your child says, “Can I have some milk?” You might say, “Please try again” until they remember the all-important “please.” Avoid simply passing the milk to the child, remember that the delay and repetition teaches the child to use polite words every time.

Step 4: Compliment
Praise their efforts. Children thrive on positive reinforcement. Be sure to praise your child if you notice her using her good manners without prompting.

Step 5: Keep In Mind
Reinforce the need for proper manners prior to a social event. If you’ve got plans for a special birthday dinner for a grandparent or you’re on your way to a party, take a moment to remind your children that they must use their good manners; see if they can provide you with examples of what that might mean. This way, you won’t be steaming by the time the event ends.

Step 6: Reliable
Be consistent. Make sure that you are always expecting good manners. Don’t accept the rudeness that occasionally creeps up, especially when your toddler is with his friends. You’ll be surprised to realize that those children will also respond politely once they see your child being politely guided to proper behavior.

Step 7: Realistic
Be reasonable. A tired, cranky child is unlikely to have the capacity to use all of her good manners. Or any at all. Don’t expect a frustrated child to use her manners or you will both end up even more frustrated.

Wish ya all the best mommies. May Allah swt bless your day. Amin~