Post by MamaFiza on November 30, 2007
This event took part on Nov 12, 2007.
We brought our kiddies to Bandar Baru Bangi Library (as known as Hulu Langat Library, Selangor Darul Ehsan).
It had been for a long time we didn’t drop by the place since last August due to we spent more time together painting our new home (transforming old house to our playful crib) *alhamdulillah*.
Below are the pics that we had taken:
Exploring our new knowledge hand by hand *2nd pics: it seems that those kiddies also eager to join us*
Helping my lil princess to read her book
KiruaMi-cHan with his favorite book; What Are You So Grumpy About?
ReiHi-cHan was sooo thrilled to scrutinize the library
PaPa also too busy on focusing his reading material *oh YunaFi-cHan too sleepy on that day*
Experts agree that spending time with books is a key component of developing literacy. The more exposure children have to books and reading programs, the more quickly and easily they learn to read.
By taking your toddler to the library on a regular basis, you can begin building the foundation of his or her reading education before they even begin attending school.
Here are some tips from Adrienne Backus that I learned to help our library outings go more smoothly and produce the maximum educational benefit for my family and your child:
- Meet the librarian. Before you take your child to the library, pay a solo visit to the children’s room. Introduce yourself to the librarian and explain that you would like to begin introducing your child to the library. He or she will be happy to help you select the most age-appropriate books and programs for your child. While you’re there, pick up a flyer detailing the times and themes of the regular story times.
- Prepare your child. Watch a video or read a book about going to the library *simply search at YouTube*. Talk about how the library is a quiet place and discuss proper library behavior with your child. Model “inside voices” and “outside voices” and talk about where each is appropriate. Explain how to handle books properly by not ripping pages, turning down corners or coloring in them.
- Make a trial visit. Before you start attending regular story time, pay a short visit to the children’s room with your child. Introduce your child to the librarian and let the librarian help your child select one or two books. You may want to ask the librarian to help you reinforce what you’ve already discussed with your child about behavior and proper care of books. *mamafiza: I do introduce my kiddies to librarian*
- Going to story time. If possible, choose a story time when your child will be rested and well fed. Hungry, tired children will not be able to concentrate. Most libraries require that you remain with your child at story time so make the most of it! Sit with your child and model the behavior you expect. If your child gets rambunctious, give one or two quiet warnings and then, if he or she does not settle down, leave and try again another day. It may take a few tries before your child understands what is expected.
Make visiting the library at least a monthly event! Spending just an hour reading together or attending a story hour can have an incredible impact on your child’s early literacy and establish good reading habits for a lifetime.
Post by MamaFiza on November 30, 2007
1) First scene: “Do it NOW! or else!”
2) Second scene: Hurry! *start counting* “One… Two..”
Have you ever been threatening by your parent or others by counting “One… Two” if you did not do what he or she wanted?
Or you’re the one whom threatening people?
Today, we do notice that in public/private schools that “bullying” is not just a simple matter. Everyone from;minister, parents and teachers struggle daily with how to stop this behavior. Without realizing it, adults teach bullying behavior to children by modeling it when they use the threat of their physical size or power to make children do things.
As for me when I hear a parent counting “1… 2” at a toddler, I always wonder what the child has been told will happen if the parent gets to 3. Is it the threat of a spanking, being yelled at, time out, abandonment (I’m going without you) or the withdrawal of love and approval? Whatever the threat may be, I rarely hear “three“.
As intended, the threat of what will happen if the parent gets to three usually compels the child to do whatever it is the parent is telling the child to do. Parents use threats to get children to cooperate because that was what adults so often modeled when we were growing up. Most of us are familiar with the phrase “or else.” We did what we were told out of fear even if we didn’t know what the “or else” would be.
While counting may appear to be a magic form of discipline, there is no magic in threats. Children know that adults are bigger and more powerful than they are. They comply in self-defense. If the only way we can get children to do what we ask is by intimidating them with our greater physical size and power, how will we get them to do as we ask when we are “no longer bigger and stronger? ” Ask the parents of any teenager if counting still works. Not only do threats no longer work, they’ve learned to use the same means to make others do what they want.
This what I’ve learned from Pam Leo, writer for The Natural Child Project:
Very young children can learn conflict resolution if we model it. An older sibling can be taught to find another toy to exchange with their younger sibling instead of just snatching their toy back. When two children want the same toy at the same time we can help them “problem solve” a solution. When there is a conflict of needs because the parent wants to do an errand and the child just wants to stay home and play we can say “let’s problem solve to see if we can find a way for us both to get what we need.”
Maybe the child could take the toy in the car or perhaps the errand could wait until tomorrow. When the parent is ready to leave the playground and the child wants to stay longer we can suggest a compromise of five more minutes and doing something fun when we get home. Often it’s not that the child doesn’t want to leave as much as it is that she doesn’t want the fun to end. When we teach children that everyone’s needs are important by honoring their needs they learn to honor the needs of others.
There will be times that we won’t have the time or the resources to meet a child’s need. There will be times that even after honoring the child’s need, the child is still unable to cooperate. At those times it is important to communicate that parents have needs too and even though it makes the child unhappy we do have to go now and then allow the child to have his feeling about having to leave.
It is never OK to tell a young child that you will leave without them. Threatening a child with abandonment terrifies a child. When a child has a tantrum about leaving it may not be about leaving the playground at all. Leaving may just be the last straw that unleashes the day’s accumulation of little frustrations. The child may just need to cry to empty out the stresses of the day.
A child will be able to move forward much more readily when we can say “I know you’re sad and it’s OK to cry” than if we say “Stop that crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” When the crying is done the child will usually feel better and be more able to cooperate.
When children’s needs are met and nothing is hurting them they are usually delightful to be with. Whenever a child responds negatively to a reasonable request we need to look for the conflicting need.
Once we know how our needs are in conflict we can try to problem solve. I have learned to say, “When you behave that way I know something is wrong, because we love each other and people who love each other don’t treat each other this way. Can you tell me what you need or what’s hurting you?”
If I can remember to stop and ask that one simple question it changes the whole context of the conflict.
That question communicates, ” I love you and what you feel and need matters to me“.
Sometimes there isn’t a way for both people to get what they need. But not getting what we need is much easier to bear if we are treated in a way that allows us to keep our dignity. Counting at a child communicates, “I am bigger and more powerful than you and you ‘d better do as I say or I’m going to (in some way) hurt you.”
When a big kid says to a smaller one, “Do what I say or I’m going to hurt you,” we call it bullying. When an adult communicates the same thing to a child by counting, we call it discipline. When we treat children in ways that take away their dignity we teach them how to take away other’s dignity. If we want kids to stop bullying, we have to stop bullying kids. The power of fear is easy and quick but short-lived. The power of love requires more work and takes longer but children never outgrow its influence. Children count on us to teach them the way, so let’s stop counting at them.
p/s: I’ve been “there“, in the above situation, in my childhood days. Yes, it’s totally hurt! I won’t feel be in love but I just felt fear and disgust with those people whom treat kids like they owned them.
Post by MamaFiza on November 30, 2007
My hubby had funny chinwag
conversation with KiruaMi-cHan when he tried to teach our son to play chess via computer.
I am not there with them, just heard from next door *the door is wide open* while BF my daughter ReiHi-cHan and lil baby YunaFi-cHan (oh yes, I used to tandem nursing all my kiddies, Alhamdulillah).
But then, I burst out laughed within seconds.
Funny chit-chat from PaPa the King with the Prince:
PaPa: Kirua, this is “Chess” game. This game name “Chess”
PaPa: Very good.
PaPa: OK, this one we called it Queen. This one is King and this one is the “Horse”.
KiruaMi: *replied quickly* PaPa, where’s the Cat?
PaPa: Oh, it’s a Knight.
Me: *the one whom don’t know how to play chess at all* LoL!
my true love ^_-
Post by MamaFiza on November 29, 2007
For the last 4 months, I had bumped into new young inspirational blogger; RiceBunny.
She is so young (younger than me, she is 20 years old – same age as my little sister, instead my lil sister told me about her, thanks a lot meamizuno!). Pure Taiwanese. Live in Florida, United States.
What makes her different to me? I felt in love with her strong spirits, endeavor her talent plus kind heart.
Even-though she came from rich family, but she decide to do her own work to pay for her life *salute*.
On her blog, she teaches people to look great and doing good things. *oh yes, she’s not just a normal geek, she’s a superb model *can’t take my eyes of her*, illustrator, a student, an ultimate gamer!
I do learn a lot from her writings. May Allah swt gave the best as reward to her.
Before I forgot, for the above tittle: she had donated her hair for Locks of Love; for needs.
Miss RiceBunny a.k.a Michelle Phan
I am so excited when get to know this organization, I tried on goggling the Internet about donating hair in Malaysia, sadly I can hardly find one.
I decide to donate my hair for those kids; hoping the could gain confident in daily life. I had told my hubby about this plan and he totally agreed with me.
I felt sad due to didn’t know about this earlier because of since I married with him, I had cut my hair for 3 times with lengths of more than 25 inches.
*I grow out my hair for the first time for someone I love, hubby dubby because in my childhood days I love to cut it short for better care and study purpose – yay I cut my hair monthly! -, second times; for KiruaMi-cHan, third times for ReiHi-cHan, fourth times – this time for YunaFi-cHan and Locks of Love, Insya-Allah 😉 *
me and my YunaFi-cHan ^_-
What is LOCKS OF LOVE?
Locks of Love is a public non-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children under age 18 suffering from long-term medical hair loss from any diagnosis. We meet a unique need for children by using donated hair to create the highest quality hair prosthetics. Most of the children helped by Locks of Love have lost their hair due to a medical condition called alopecia areata, which has no known cause or cure. The prostheses we provide help to restore their self-esteem and their confidence, enabling them to face the world and their peers.
Our mission is to return a sense of self, confidence and normalcy to children suffering from hair loss by utilizing donated ponytails to provide the highest quality hair prosthetics to financially disadvantaged children. The children receive hair prostheses free of charge or on a sliding scale, based on financial need.
CAUSES OF HAIR LOSS
Locks of Love is devoted to helping every child suffering from medical hair loss, thus we do not discriminate as to the cause of hair loss. We list the following information in an attempt to explain types of hair loss and specific needs of individual recipients.
Our largest number of children live with alopecia. Alopecia is an auto-immune disorder that causes the hair follicles to shut down. This disease has varying degrees and affects 4.7 million people in the United States alone. Alopecia areata affects both sexes equally and may, but does not always, progress to significant hair loss. Currently, there is no known cause or cure for alopecia. The degrees of alopecia are as follows:
* Alopecia Areata Ophiasis-loss in bands along the scalp margins
* Alopecia Areata Sisaipho-loss of all scalp hair except along the scalp margins
* Alopecia Totalis-loss of all scalp hair
* Alopecia Universalis-loss of all scalp and body hair
Cancer constitutes the second highest percentage of our recipients. Every year approximately 2,200 children under age 20 are diagnosed with brain tumors. Radiation treatment to the brain stem as a treatment for cancer can cause permanent hair loss. Chemotherapy may also cause hair loss to be long-term depending on the length of treatment needed.
Other causes of hair loss account for a small percentage of our recipients.
* Ectodermal Dysplasia-A heritable disorder that affects the formation of the ectoderm. Extremely sparse hair can be a result of ectoderm abnormality.
* Loose Anagen Syndrome-An abnormality where hair is thin and normally does not grow beyond the nape of the neck.
* Trichotillomania-Compulsive and repetitive hair pulling.
* Telogen Effluvium-Diffuse but excessive shedding related to sudden stress.
* Trauma-burns, accidents, dog attacks, etc.
Things You Should Know:
Locks of Love is not a manufacturer of any type of hair replacement product or hair care product. As a charity and strictly a charity, we must purchase the custom prostheses we provide for our recipients.
In no way is Locks of Love associated with or an affiliate of any for-profit hair replacement business. Furthermore, none of its employees or members of the Board of Directors is associated with any company in the hair replacement or hair care industries.
Anyone out there would like to join me? *cheers*
Hopefully I could manage to complete this task on December 2008, this is my personal mission *due to my hair lengths now still not meet the requirement*
May you have a great day 😉
Lots of Love!